"It is not your job to be everything, to everyone."
-some intelligent person
This is a quote that has been around for quite some time now and honestly it couldn't be more true. However, I want to throw my little two cents in.
"It is definitely not your MF job to be everyMFthing, to everyMFbody, all the MF time. Period!"
-T.
Look, I get it. I've been there. You want to be that friend who answers everybody's calls immediately just in case it's an emergency. You want to go to every organization's events because you want to show enthusiasm and support for your school. You want to go to work everyday because your job is understaffed and you want to be helpful. Well, I'm here to tell you, it is not your job to be that. IT AIN'T WORTH IT! It's not worth your mental health. Do you think if you have a heart attack from working so much that your job is going to shut down and wait until you get better. UH NO. They are going to hire someone else to replace you and keep it pushing. And if your friends can't understand that sometimes you just need some time to yourself and that you can't be completely available to them 24/7, then you need new friends. Friendship is supposed to be mutually beneficial. If you're putting all of your energy into your relationships (romantic or just friendships) to the point where you feel drained and unappreciated, then it might be about that time to have a conversation. There should not be any reason why you feel like you are putting the most into a friendship and not receiving anything out of in return. And when I say getting something in return, I'm not talking about being on some gold digging type thing. I'm talking about getting genuine conversations, encouragement, laughter, advice, opportunities, relief, support, etc. Real friends are going to see you're exhaustian and tell you that you should probably take a few days to yourself. They're going to try to talk to you to see how they can help you because they know when something isn't right with you. Those are true friends. If they haven't even caught the hint that the friendship is draining you, then just let it go. IT IS NOT WORTH IT!
You can not be everything for everyone because if you do that, you can't be everything for yourself. Don't push yourself too hard to where you're no good for anyone. Put yourself first. Be everything that you can be for yourself, and then whatever you have left, then share it.
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