This morning has been a little rough for me. It could be the annoying pms or my annoying guy, but it's probably a combination of both.
So instead of me getting ready for work, I procrastinate. I'm scrolling through Instagram and I see this post.
This caught my attention because this past semester, I lost one of my best friends because of this. A situation happened that caused me to feel like I didn't need to forgive her and move on because I didn't feel that she was sorry. Some may say that's immature, childish, holding grudges, etc. But in my eyes that was just common sense to me.
How can you forgive someone who doesn't want forgiveness? How can you forgive someone who feels like they haven't done anything wrong to forgive?
As time went on, my friends kept telling me it was time to move on and forgive and let things get back to normal, but I couldn't. Knowing that things probably would've been much easier for our friend group if I had just brushed things and let it go, it still didn't sit right with me.
I wanted my friends to understand that I had moved on. There was no beef. I had no bad feelings towards her, but there wouldn't be a friendship anymore. As hard as that was for me, I've learned that sometimes things just can't get slid under the rug. And if a person can't own up to what they've done, then you just need to step back and stay back.
All of this is to say that as great as his music is...I'm going to have to disagree with Da Baby on this one. Strength isn't forgiving someone who wasn't sorry, but strength is recognizing that everyone doesn't deserve your heart, time, and forgiveness. We forgive, forgive, and forgive because we keep allowing the same foolishness to continue. There comes a time when it all has to stop and this will cause you to lose some of the closest people to you, but you'll feel at peace.
T.
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