Scene:
You're 18 (give or take a few years) leaving your parents house and entering the real world. This is the time you've been waiting for. College. The best 4 years of your life, where you are completely on your own, able to do whatever you want and not have anyone checking up on you all time. You don't need anyone's help for anything. You got this.
All. By. Yourself.
Reality:
The reality is you can't. I mean... you can but it's going to be hard, and it really doesn't have to be. You need a support system when you want to launch that business idea, but you keep psyching yourself out. You need to have people you can vent to when your classes are harder than you expected and our professor is a complete a-hole. And when you feel like your losing yourself, beginning to lose sight of who you truly are, you're going to need your parents to give you that love to remind you of who you are and what you're about.
Personally, my parents raised me to be very independent, but also a little spoiled (yes I'm a daddy's girl). I've had a job since I was 14 years old. My parents taught me money management and great work ethic. Now when I come home from college they can't get me to stop working. It's instilled in me to make my own money and never ask them for anything if possible. Until the day came when my mom asked me, "Why do you feel like you have to do everything on your own? Why do you think you can't ask for our help? We're your parents."
I sat there trying to think of an answer to her questions and all I could come up with was this. "I just don't want to ask you for anything." My response was annoyingly vague and general, but it was the truth. It was never my parents fault that I felt that I didn't need help from anyone, it's just how I carried things since I was in the 9th grade.
I say all this to say...asking for help is not a sign of weakness or neediness. The people who care about you, want to hear from you. They want to be a help to you when you need them. The only person stopping them from being that help to you, is you. Getting out of that "independent, don't need nobody for nothing" mindset is a hard one to crack, but its doable. And once you do, you'll see how many doors will open for you and how much stress is lifted off of you.
Don't block your own blessings.
T.
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